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Combating Emotional Hijacks

How to keep the executive functioning part of your brain online when your emotions try to hijack you.

Consequences of a hijacking

Kimberly lowered her eyes and spoke quietly. “I didn’t like myself very much at that point.”

I said nothing.

“The minute I got back to my office, I knew I shouldn’t have said what I said. I can’t believe I thought, even for a minute, that Max didn’t have my best interest at heart. Of course he did. He always does.” She shook her head slowly and blew out a big breath. More

Under Executive Questioning

Facing an executive team — even a friendly one! — can be daunting. Here are Tips to help you excel.

The danger in questions

Carla, Nathan and Lester were part of a leadership development cohort. These three high-potential employees, who had never worked together before, had to co-manage a joint project over the course of a year. The conclusion of the project needed to be a business recommendation presented to the CEO and the entire senior staff. More

Creating Safety for Hard Talks

How to quiet emotions during hard conversations

Blocks against hard talks

Danielle was reluctant to broach the elephant in the room with her boss, Kerry.

Weeks ago, Kerry had offered her a substantial change in position. The benefits attached to this offer were significant, but there were downsides, too. It would mean leaving her international post, which she adored. And she would have to take on more management functions and have fewer leadership functions. She was torn. More

How Teams Fight

Creating healthy conflict for your team

Conflict is good – except when it’s not

Sirhan was giving me an update about his team. I had coached Sirhan almost two years earlier and we’d stayed in touch.

One major change he’d implemented as a result of our work was a makeover of his team’s meetings. This new way of meeting had generated many effective behaviors. But one area had been bumpy: how team members fought with each other. He was telling me about that now. More

Taming Meetings

Don’t let your meetings be deadly drudgery

“Death by Meeting”

Sirhan’s global management team was relatively new. Since forming just over a year ago, they’d come together three times. I’d facilitated each of the events. Sirhan and I agreed that the team was made up of whip-smart individuals who weren’t yet working together as a leadership team. More

Conquering Fear

One question that can tame any fear.

Verbal porridge

Elizabeth had my full attention.

She and I were in a conference room in Los Angeles. On speakerphone from Chicago was her boss, Joe. The purpose of the conversation was for Joe to talk about his goals for Elizabeth’s coaching. He’d said exactly what we’d expected him to say. More

Building Empathy

Defining empathy vs sympathy and tools to build your capacity.

Bested by her junior

Jillian was frustrated.

“I should be able to handle her better by now,” she groused. “I’ve been dealing with Doris since my first day here and that’s almost ten years. And then I see this, this, I don’t know, this kid just ease her out of one of her moods. Whatever he’s drinking, I want some.” More

Bonus Episode

Readers’ Letters #1

A bonus episode!

Tom shares email exchanges he had with two podcast listeners. One exchange is about handling people who interrupt presentations. The other is about defining tasks and responsibilities when they’re not defined for you. More

Personal Histories as Your Brand

A formula for talking about yourself in a way that’s compelling

“Tell us about yourself!”

Desmond was competing for a senior executive position. We had spent the first several coaching sessions mapping his political landscape. Now we turned our attention to the interview.

“Will everyone in there know you?” I asked. More

Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta

A tool for creating high performing teams

Delta ≠ bad

Nathaniel and I were building an agenda for his team’s three-day retreat.

Working with Nathaniel was a blast. He was curious, smart and undefended. He seemed willing to hear anything. Well, almost anything. He wasn’t willing to hear about scheduling concrete activities for the mornings of days two and three. More

The Mindful Executive

Mindfulness is a “must have” tool for any professional development.

Taming The Beast

Gerald admitted the incident had happened. He admitted he had tossed a marker towards someone in a meeting. He understood why she thought it had been hostile. More

Coaching Under Attack

Why a professional coach can make a huge difference in your career and in your life.

Interrogation begins

“You’re not a business coach,” Charlotte stated, looking at me squarely. Was there a challenge in her statement? I wasn’t sure. More

High-Stakes Meetings

Three steps to help you succeed in meetings when the stakes are high.

Charlotte over the horizon

Charlotte had been the president of a consumer goods company for just over a year. Her appointment had been a surprise because she had no experience in the consumer goods sector. Once installed, she’d ruffled feathers by being relentless about revenue and tough on people. In the sixteen months she’d been in place, longtime executives had resigned and junior people were polishing their resumes. More

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